How Do You Secretly Find Out Your Partner's Ring Size?

You’re planning a secret proposal. You’ve found the perfect ring and started planning how you want to pop the question, but there’s one huge problem – what’s your partner’s ring size? Most of us don’t know our partner’s ring size, and asking them outright might spoil the surprise. 

Most people don’t buy the correct ring size for their partner – and that’s okay! Almost every engagement ring will inevitably end up being resized, whether it happens after the proposal or a few years later. Below, we’re sharing 3 of the best ways to find out your partner’s ring size and why it might not matter as much as you think.

How Important is Getting Your Partner’s Exact Ring Size?

Most engagement rings can be resized within 1 – 2 sizes, so not getting your partner’s ring size correct isn’t a disaster. However, certain settings can make it harder for a ring to be resized, especially for full eternity bands and rings with intricate pave stones.

If you’re worried about getting your partner’s ring size correct, choosing a custom engagement ring can give you the flexibility to choose a design that can be easily adjusted.

What is the Average Engagement Ring Size?

In the U.S., the average woman’s ring size falls between sizes 6 and 7. Generally, most men will have a larger ring size than this. When in doubt, choosing the most common ring size will give you a good range of resizing options – and may you end up choosing the correct ring size after all.

The Best Ways to Secretly Find Out Your Partner’s Ring Size

It’s still worth trying to figure out your partner’s ring size, especially as most couples won’t immediately choose to resize the engagement ring. You’ll want to get the best fit possible when sliding the ring on their finger after popping the question. Below, we’re sharing 3 ways to secretly find out your partner’s ring size.

1.    Borrow a Ring They Already Wear

The easiest way to find out your partner’s ring size is by using a ring that they wear regularly, ideally on their ring finger. Trace around the inside of the ring on a piece of paper to get the measurements or bring the ring discreetly to a jeweler. It’s worth mentioning that ring sizing can differ between a person’s left and right hand, so it’s best to use a ring that you’ve seen them wear on the correct ring finger if possible.

2. Ask a Trusted Friend or Sibling

If you’re having a friend or sibling help you plan your proposal, they may know – or be able to help you find out – your partner’s ring size. The best person for this task is someone who is likely to discuss jewelry or a potential engagement.

3. The Casual Jewelry Store “Stop-In”

How often do you walk by a jewelry store? Next time you’re out shopping with your partner, suggest a casual “stop-in” as you go by. Avoid going directly to the engagement rings but look at other jewelry instead, including other rings. You can suggest that they try a ring on for size and make a mental note of their sizing. This option is great if your partner doesn’t typically wear rings day-to-day.

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Don’t panic if the engagement ring you buy is a little too snug or loose on your partner’s finger. Almost every engagement ring ends up being resized at least once, but it’s worth thinking about size if you choose a ring design that is harder to resize. Always speak to the jeweler or brand directly if you’re concerned about sizing.  

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